Ceremony

Our Quaker Wedding Ceremony

Our ceremony will be in the tradition of the Religious Society of Friends (Quakers). As it may be a new experience for many, here is an overview of the process to help you feel at home and connected:

About a Quaker Wedding

At the center of a Quaker wedding is a meeting for worship, grounded in collective silence. There is no officiant and there are no elaborate rituals. Instead, everyone gathers together as a community — in stillness and love — to actively witness the union of two people making solemn promises before God and those dearest to them.

Though there will be times of silence, the silence is not empty. It is a space full of presence and a chance to center ourselves while reflecting inwardly. It may feel unusual at first, but it quickly becomes something deeply peaceful and powerful.

After the Wedding Party processes in and settles, at a moment that feels right to them, Leise and Chris will rise to exchange their vows aloud before God and their dearest friends and beloved family. Afterward, anyone who feels spiritually moved is welcome to stand and speak. This could be a message, memory, advice, or blessing — from the heart. These sentiments wrap Leise and Chris in the collective love of their most important people. All we ask is that you share messages appropriate for a sacred space, speak clearly, and allow time between messages for silence to be gently restored.

After a period of shared experience, two members of the family will shake hands to close the ceremony. At that point, everyone else will follow suit by shaking hands with those nearby — a simple yet profound gesture of collective support, witness and connection.

At the conclusion of the ceremony, a kiss is shared between the newlyweds, and the couple and the Wedding Party will recess first. All of those present will then recess and make their way to the celebration, where all are asked to sign the Quaker marriage certificate as witnesses to this union.